"Talking to Yourself!"

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I remember going to a seminar where the speaker was Topher Morrison – I really do like his style and content.

And…

There was something he said which really struck a chord for me, a chord that’s still ringing its melody some years later.

Recently – the idea he told me - surfaced and this time with a slightly different meaning as I was questioning myself about certain activities I was taking.

Wow!

What a difference when I realized what was happening and knew what to do.

You see – Topher had said there was a correlation between the degree of disharmony in a relationship and the amount one party wanted to change the other.

This made perfect sense to me.

If I was unhappy with someone – it was probably because I wanted them to change to fit the picture of them I felt should be a reality. And any discussions, arguments or disagreements were invariably about our different views of who they were or
could be.

Does this make sense?

The insight I had later was…

The same idea applied to my relationship with the most important person in my life – namely – me!

And – any disharmony in my self-dialogue, my self-talk, my silent witnessing – would be in direct correlation to the difference between:

Who I knew I could be – and who I was being.

Does THIS make sense?

So I was thinking…

You could use this too. Whenever you hear the whisper of doubt, questioning, challenge in your mind – then maybe a moment to realize if the conversation you’re having is because of the difference between who you are and who your inner-self would like (or feel) you could/should/must be.

It’s a fabulous process and one worthy of regular use – I do like these intelligent conversations – don’t you?

PPS: comments, thoughts, ideas, puzzles or laughter to: peter@tgimondays.com

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