"Paying A Compliment"

Hello  

Isn’t it just a great feeling to pay someone an honest compliment and see their face light up?

In fact...

I’m not sure I’m really paying people enough compliments – and perhaps I need to be on the lookout to do it more often.

However...

There is a slight problem and it’s – some people deflect compliments because they feel slightly embarrassed as being praised.

But...

There are a few ideas to make this ‘paying’ smooth, simple and easy for both parties involved – here they are:

One:

When paying a compliment – be specific rather than a generalist.

Two:

Use the person’s name in the compliment-paying sentence.

Three:

Praise the action and NOT the person. Praise of just the person will sound like flattery; praise of the action will be far more sincere.

Four – and the big one...

To avoid someone deflecting your honest and heartfelt compliment – add a question after the compliment

For example:

Rather than:

“John, thanks for getting me your sales report a day early – it really helped me get the Board Report finished on time”

Say:

“John, thanks for getting me your sales report a day early – it really helped me get the Board Report finished on time – how long did it take you?”

Just think...

How many opportunities we have each and every day to brighten someone else’s life by sincerely recognising what they do – and especially what they do for us.

In the hurly-burly of busyness business it’s easy to forget at times – isn’t it? I know I do.

But...

Now I’ll be more on the lookout for occasions to add a little honest and appropriate sunshine to their day and mine.

 thank you for taking the time to read my Monday messages, I do hope they make a difference for you – do you read them every week?
 

Go on then...

Peter Thomson

Editor and Compliment-Giving Publisher

tgiMondays
 

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